"In giving birth to our babies, we may find that we give birth to new possibilities within ourselves." ~Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn
With the birth of my first child, I found that a spark was ignited within me. This spark led me to question society’s popular view on birth and gave me the strength to follow my heart. I was in awe of my growing belly and my body’s ability to carry and foster a developing baby. I realized that childbirth holds the power to transform women. Giving birth to my son was one of the most amazing, hard, indescribable, and sacred things I’ve ever done.
I want to help women learn, just as I did, that they are powerful, capable, and strong. I want each woman to know her inner strength and trust in her body’s ability to give birth. I believe every woman, and her partner should invest time and energy into preparing and educating themselves about the process of birth and their choices. As a doula, it’s my role to help facilitate and create the birth experience that parents desire.
As a doula, I provide support, encouragement, information, and care to each mother and her partner. I like what author and birth advocate, Marsden Wagner says, “…Respecting the woman as an important and valuable human being and making certain that the woman’s experience while giving birth is fulfilling and empowering, is not just a nice extra, it is absolutely essential as it makes the woman strong and therefore makes society strong.”
As a doula, I am there in addition to, not instead of the partner. The mother’s partner is essential in providing support; they bring intimate knowledge about the mother and love for her and their child that no one else can. It is my role to help the partner support her, ultimately making relationships stronger and bonds tighter in only a way that the birth experience can. With a doula present, the pressure on the partner is decreased, and I can help him participate at a level he is comfortable with; guiding him in effective ways to help the mother through labor.
I also feel that there are times when pain medication and interventions are needed and appropriate. However, too often these decisions are made from fear, convenience, or lack of information. As a doula, it is my role to help the couple understand their options, ask the right questions, and take the time needed to make the best decisions for them. I believe that any well-educated decision, made without pressure or fear, is the right one for a laboring couple and as their doula, I support couples in their decisions.
The journey of pregnancy, birth, and motherhood is powerful and inspiring. My vow to families is to guide them through this special journey; helping them have a positive, empowering, and unique childbirth experience! The birth experience should be one of joy, love, and empowerment.